Orbuculum

Not far were the days of soothing summers,

When I found a crystal ball, showing nothing but fading colors.

Something lured me to make a purchase

When “It’s fragile, think before you keep it”, they said.

 

Fearing that I might break it, I kept it away

Cold in the dark, it turned smudgy, away from the ray.

I took the leap and asked what it has to show

The crystal immediately lit up with a subliminal glow.

 

It showed me clear skies and violent storms

But what caught my eyes, were the starry nights, not of usual norms

To get the best, one must rise above the clouds, I knew

Forgetting what’s right, that’s where it got wronged. Oops, Was that a cue?

 

The days that followed were the days of highs and lows

But sometimes, the best thing to do is to go with flows.

Each time, I looked into the Crystal, it showed me a different picture

Jumbled and puzzled, I always longed for some new fixture

 

Trying hard to keep it safe, I thought of using it less

Oh, that! I omitted the details, which was to create a mess.

Lost in my world, I relied on some ideas as stupid as an excuse

After all, it was what I decided to choose.

 

Then one day, when I expected the least

I found it broken, Alas! Was it a beast?

I could have asked my crystal, but that was gone

What’s gone is gone, what’s the point in frowning upon?

 

Things change when you lose your crystal,

You’re on your own now, facing the frigid Mistral.

It may take a week or years more than six

To reach to a point, where you finally get fixed.

 

It’s been days since I lost my Orbuculum

Sorry, need to correct, lost the Orbuculum.

You can never tell what’s yours and what’s not

But you can always rely on the lessons, it taught.

 

In hindsight, I should have a better foresight then

But how could I, being oblivious to what the Crystal showed again and again?

Rise up and never look back again

Every day, we hear news about rape, torture and emotionally blackmailing. Is this the reason why girls these days are so afraid? So, afraid of being judged, of attracting negative attention, of making a mistake, of always living cautiously so that she doesn’t repent later? This is the reason why they are afraid of leading because it is how it is. Even now people which mean both females and males look down upon women who has leadership qualities or are dominating. They don’t find it to be a feminine quality, and hence term them as bossy (which makes it pretty clear why they are detested) Maybe, our society is male- dominant but it wasn’t the same from the beginning. Someday, we used to consider the women as Goddess. They were the elites of our society. Fast forward to now, women these days are afraid, I have felt it myself. We feel dependent on our males and other people. Well, was it my fault? No, I ensure you that this isn’t anyone’s fault. Our whole psychological belief has been the same way and this wasn’t done in a day or two. It took thousands of years to be how we are now. Men find the weak and dependent girls alluring for they can have their authority on them and hence feel confident themselves. Instead of telling them to be strong and resilient, they are advised to stay at home, and that it’s completely fine to be dependent, all they need to do is doll up and look pretty. Well, did anyone tell you that we like to dress up to feel good about ourselves and not to attract you, in general? Maybe that’s pretty hard to get it for most of our males are narrow – minded, well not just males, women as well. So, yeah it’s a big challenge for the girls to overcome the societal barriers, to overcome their psychological problems and to rise over the derogatory comments they get to hear every day and take on the challenge to get to the top.

Life’s too short to let depression cave in

When it comes to depression, oftentimes we tend to ignore the cause of the mental condition, you  are going through. Before I proceed any further let me tell you the best way to get out of the dreamland of self-pitying is to first accept that “It’s all in the mind”. Once you get to accept it and that you can control your thoughts, your mind will have no longer control over you.

Stress –> Anxiety –> Depression –>Self-Pitying –> Become less responsible—> Things don’t work out for you—>  Blame game starts –> You push away people–>Your health starts degrading–>You’re not able to manage things—->And the Cycle continues (Unless you decide to break free and actually work towards it)

If the above cycle seems relatable to you and you really want to jump out of your situation, you must go through this article to get the scientific angle of the matter. I bet, this will help you more than any of the other mentioned tips .

http://www.anxietyspecialist.co.uk/Anxiety-Bristol-Bath.html

And if you want to take a test to check if you’re having anxiety, you should visit the mentioned site:

https://www.calmclinic.com/anxiety-test/

Though the main cause of anxiety is stress, there can be several causes of stress. Some of them are:

  • Disempowerment – A lack of power or influence over one’s life.
  • Poor sleep (Also a response to stress as well as a cause).
  • Victimization (Being bullied).
  • Losing a loved one (Bereavement or the loss of a relationship)
  • Family difficulties (Children, sex, divorce, lovelessness)
  • Boredom/Lack of direction in life.
  • A lack of time or energy to do everything that needs to be done.
  • Poor self-image/Lack of self-worth.
  • Negative Thinking
  • Negative Outlook
  • Guilt, Blame, and Shame.
  • Financial difficulties (Debt!)
  • Misuse of drugs/alcohol.
  • Work pressure.
  • Illness
  • Loneliness
  • Failing Relationships

Knowing the reason behind the pain, you can now try the self-healing process. Here are some quick strategies to help you cope with those panic attacks:

Deep Breaths-If you are about to deliver a speech and you suddenly start to have the panic attacks, try taking deep breaths or count to 10 slowly.

Always keep some chewing gums with you-Chomping on a piece of chewing gum relieves stress and anxiety. Besides, it also increases your alertness and blood flow .When you chew , your brain gets the idea that since you’re eating there’s no reason to panic and hence it avoids the fight and flight situation.

3.Do your best. Instead of aiming for perfection, which isn’t possible, be proud of however close you get.

4.Welcome humor. A good laugh goes a long way.

5.Accept that you cannot control everything. Put your stress in perspective: Is it really as bad as you think?

6.Take a time-out. Practice yoga, listen to music, meditate, get a massage, or learn relaxation techniques. Stepping back from the problem helps clear your head.

The quick tips can fix your problem for a while but if you really want to live a happy and fulfilling life , those are not enough. You need to work daily on yourself.

Exercise – Now, exercising doesn’t mean that you should do intense workouts everyday an hour or so. Having an active lifestyle or just walking or running for 20 minutes  keeps monotony at bay. Our brain releases chemicals  (endorphins) that are natural  painkillers and hence helps to cope with everyday stress.

Eat well-balanced meals- Do not skip any meal and ensure that you are getting all the nutrients from the food you eat. This is not only going to help you get through your day but will also keep you healthy. Avoid caffeine-containing beverages instead take in enough  water  since caffeine is scientifically proven to be aggravating stress and triggering anxiety .

Don’t clutter your life, make it simple and beautiful–  Arrange your things properly ,have a routine and try to follow it .Even if you don’t follow it exactly, you will at least have it for guidance .This will remove two pests of your life- hurry, and indecision.

People around you matter-You should stay away from people who are generally stressed and hot-tempered .  So, one should spend more time with happy people , who you can laugh with and not take away your peace of mind.

Don’t  forget to have some “me” time- This is to ensure you get some time to relax and get a little perspective into your life.

Try to live one day at a time- I am not saying that you shouldn’t have any goal or aspiration, but after waking up everyday repeat it to yourself  ” Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once”. Even if you did make some mistakes earlier in life ,you should know that every new day is free from mistakes. Every day is a new life for a wise man”.

Don’t take life too seriously- Don’t get too attached to anything and live life as it comes .You must “Accept what you can’t control”. Have plans at the back of your mind but don’t get too attached to it for you never know what tomorrow will bring. Love life and people around you  and try to help whenever you can but you must not over exert yourself in the process.

Put yourself first- One should know that putting others first is not the way how it works. Even if it doesn’t seem right at the moment but in the long run, this is what matters. Only when your needs are fulfilled ,you can take care of your loved ones. Sometimes, the most selfish thing to do is the most selfless act. Ignoring yourself for the sake of others will only make you more cranky and irksome.

Take proper rest- Sleep deprivation invites stress and anxiety. Make sure you get 6-8 hours of sleep every day.

Positive -talk- Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. Practice gratitude and accept yourself.

People tend to think that happiness is a stroke of luck, something that will descend like fine weather if you are fortunate. But happiness is the result of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert

Start meditating or practice mindfulnessIt has a long term benefit and practicing it makes you more focused and alert.